The grass is always greener: Feeling lonely when single, and trapped when coupled

“I’ve been craving freedom,” my taken friend told me over an overpriced Cajé smoothie the other day. I was surprised to hear this, considering her relationship seems somewhat ideal. How could s...
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Hedonism, humiliation, Hinge: How dating apps have ruined connections

Match.com, eharmony, OkCupid, Bumble, Tinder and now, the fan-favorite, Hinge. These offer the exact opposite of the experience that I had with Dublin’s guy: People present the most curated and lika...
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How to have California King-level sex on a Twin XL

Any true lover of sex knows that the location matters not. The bed, the couch, the ZBT bathroom — the world truly is your oyster (or your clam, I should say). 
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Making your porn history public? The problems with men’s Instagram “following” list

It has become almost a rite of passage in any talking stage to do the dreaded stalk: who your current infatuation is following on Instagram. After many failed talking stages and first dates, I feel as...
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Empowering or desperate? Isla Vistans on: women approaching men

“Holy shit, you’re bold!” my friend proclaimed after I told her about one of my recent escapades. I had been imbibing at a local bar for a few hours and enjoying the view of a particularly attr...
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A condom is worth 1,000 words: What a man’s preferred rubber says about him

Condoms: they come in all shapes, sizes, colors, textures and flavors. Pre-lubricated, ribbed, banana-flavored, extra long — most importantly, they are necessary to any sexual activity involving a p...
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“Body count”: Relic of purity culture or necessary warning?

At the risk of sounding cliché, this story begins at a Parisian café, where I sat with a man over a bottle of white and a pack of cigarettes. Our second date was going quite well until the dreaded t...
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How to: Valentine’s Day for couples and singles alike

This year’s Valentine’s Day will be the first time I am passing the holiday truly single since 2019 (yikes)! Throughout my long-term relationships, flings and situationships, I have had my fair sh...
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Is I.V. too small for dating? How to have a sex life when everyone is connected

It seems like you can’t suck a single dick in this town without finding out that said dick belongs to your freshman year roommate’s lab partner’s sorority big’s ex-situationship who committed ...
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